Do you know what’s hard?
Going on. Getting up after you’ve fallen down, taking that first step forward. Sometimes, when life get’s tough, the easy way out would be to stop, never moving, never trying anymore. It’ll not cause you any pain, there would be no heartbreak to look forward to. Therefore, you won’t have any hopes or expectations of a better tomorrow. But getting up, willing yourself to dream of a new life, one that’s better than the life you’re living today is always hard. It’s painful to go on, it hurts to hope again when all that you’ve faced are failures. The sacrifices you make, the pain that you go through, the broken dreams, all of these can never be faced again. Going through it all is enough for once. There’s no need to move forward, right? It’ll be better to stay down, to never get up, to never hope of a future that’s different.
Ever seen a candle? What does it do? It only melts away, sacrificing itself for lightening the path of so many. It only wastes away for leading someone else. Maybe it ought to have been a little selfish, saved itself from the pain of being lighted again, should have gotten a little stubborn and not burnt again. Wouldn’t that be easy? Not having to go through the pain of burning for someone else. Then it could peacefully stay still, doing nothing, staying away from all harm, leading a quiet life.
But do you know what’s harder?
The regret that follows. The regret of having stayed at the same place for years. For not having tried, for not having moved ahead, for not having a little hope. How do you justify when your heart questions, “What if you had tried a little more? What if things had turned out to be different the next time you got up? What if you missed out on the good times that you could have had just because you didn’t get up after falling down? What if what you always dreamt for was just in sight, waiting for you to make an effort and reach out?” This is what’s harder than moving on. The endless list of “what ifs“.
Life’s not meant to be at a single point. It’s about moving on. The candle that burns away gives light to all, that’s what it is meant for. That’s the purpose for its existence. Even when the wind blows it off, it lights again. All it needs is a little more effort. Same is with us. The difficulties that we face, the pain that we go through, can get us down. But staying low, never getting up, afraid of the pain to return is not what we are here for. Life demands that one get’s up, with a new hope, a new strength to move on, to make a new effort. Only then can we leave behind a life that’s different than the one we were leading earlier. Only then, can we make our lives better. Consequently, only then, can we grow!